So, I’m feeling really ashamed of myself. Today
I yelled at someone. In public. well, I think I did. it was all very loud and
confusing. I definitely had a very heated argument. With a climate change
denier.
And it has thrown me off, after what was a very
good day otherwise, with a fansastic turnout at the Brisbane Walk Against
Warming.
There were a number of ways that the yelling
could have been avoided. And it was a useless thing to do. And if I’d just
stopped for a second and thought about it, I would have come to the conclusion
that common sense and all my experience have told me- arguing with delusional
people is useless and stupid.
oh, how embarrassing. and counter-productive!
And it doesn’t matter how rude someone else is- that is no excuse for me being
rude.
So, instead of being calm and a) walking away,
or b) talking in a rational manner, I did c) get all riled up and just yell
about reading the science – resulting in a ‘read the science’- ‘I have! you
read the science’ ‘well, I don’t think you’ve read enough’ red faced yelling
match with me shaking and not coming up with anything intelligent, even to
complete clunkers of lies like ‘the sea level isn’t rising, the islands are
sinking into the sea!’ (I didn’t even come up with ‘why?’ or ‘what, all at
once?’)
I wish I’d been my normal self- I never (really
really rarely) yell. I try to listen and respect everyone’s opinion! Though I do
tend to avoid rather than confront difficult issues. Because usually I realise that it’s not worth
it, and have better things to do with my
So I wish I’d just asked sat the woman who was
yelling at me to sit down and have a talk - and not reinforced her stereotype
of ‘alarmist’ activists. As I’m
sure she is a reasonably sane person (which is a good description of me also)
in normal life, and we could have agreed to disagree on some issues, and maybe
found some other common ground. What does she think about renewable energy?
Better public transport? Air pollution and health problems? What about
overconsumption and the huge levels of personal and organisational debt we
have? There are things to talk about still. Yelling about the things we disagree on is worse than
useless.
I guess I’ll just have to learn my lesson, remember
to breathe, and not do it again. And read some of those great articles about
things you can say to those kinds of arguments.
argh.